Thursday, January 7, 2010
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
First, you must accept that you are whole already
So many men and women honestly believe that they are only half of a relationship, looking desperately for their other half. The truth is that we are all whole people...whole and complete just as we are. I believe that God made us to want to share our lives with another special person, but we honestly don't have to have that in order to be happy or content in life.
It really is true that most people tend to attract people who are about as healthy as they are, so if you're hoping to attract someone who is really healthy and will "bring you up," it's not likely to happen that way.
If you're looking for a really healthy relationship, start out by working on yourself, setting goals for physical, spiritual and emotional growth. While you're working on yourself, you might be surprised at the people who will suddenly appear on your life's path! As always, let me know if I can help you!
It really is true that most people tend to attract people who are about as healthy as they are, so if you're hoping to attract someone who is really healthy and will "bring you up," it's not likely to happen that way.
If you're looking for a really healthy relationship, start out by working on yourself, setting goals for physical, spiritual and emotional growth. While you're working on yourself, you might be surprised at the people who will suddenly appear on your life's path! As always, let me know if I can help you!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Free teleseminar tomorrow night!
Are you truly interested in finding a healthy partner? If so, then here's your chance to hear a wonderful free teleseminar! Just go to http://www.thinkitbeitseeit.com/seminars-ideal-partner! I know you'll get a lot out of it! It's tomorrow (Friday) at 1 PM and is conducted by Rev. Anne Preseul. Just click on the link above to sign up for it and you'll be given the free dial-in number!
Enjoy!
Enjoy!
Friday, September 4, 2009
How to find a healthy relationship
What Makes a Healthy Relationship?
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:
•Mutual respect. Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.
•Trust. You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:
•Mutual respect. Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.
•Trust. You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Steps to a Healthy Relationship
Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it's challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss:
1) Always Be Your True” Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you��'re being pressured to alter your character to do things you wouldn��'t usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for who you are, so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at church, can you talk when you��'re alone? What��'s going on in your conversations��"are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and undivided attention?
Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.
3) Don��'t Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other. It��'s important that your personalities are compatible.
If one views life through rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don��'t mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other��'s personalities, regardless of any differences, and bring out the best when you��'re together, then this is a winning combo, and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don��'t have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping, music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn��'t mean depriving each other of their individual interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
excerpted from an article By: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
1) Always Be Your True” Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you��'re being pressured to alter your character to do things you wouldn��'t usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for who you are, so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at church, can you talk when you��'re alone? What��'s going on in your conversations��"are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and undivided attention?
Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.
3) Don��'t Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other. It��'s important that your personalities are compatible.
If one views life through rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don��'t mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other��'s personalities, regardless of any differences, and bring out the best when you��'re together, then this is a winning combo, and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don��'t have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping, music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn��'t mean depriving each other of their individual interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
excerpted from an article By: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
Monday, July 6, 2009
Can a healthy partner have herpes?
The other day, a friend told me a joke:
“What’s the difference between love and herpes?”
I said I didn’t know.
“Herpes is forever,” she said.
While I’m not as cynical as my friend – I’ve been in love with my husband for 40 years and will love him for as long as I live – she’s right about one thing. Once you get herpes, you’ve got it for good.
So, what can you do to protect yourself?
Condoms offer better protection against HIV and pregnancy than against genital herpes. That’s because herpes lesions can appear just beyond the genitalia, in areas the condom doesn’t cover.
If you or your partner has herpes, the best protection against passing it on is suppression therapy – acyclovir or Valtrex. Whenever the infected person feels the tingles and other sensations that usually signal an imminent herpes episode, avoid sexual contact.
And if you’re just starting a new romance, be sure to have a frank talk about herpes and other intimate issues before you decide to take it to the next level. Remember, while it may be difficult at first to determine whether a relationship has staying power, you can be sure that herpes does.
- Yvonne Thornton, MD. MPH
Sunday, July 5, 2009
How Important is a Healthy Partner and Relationship?
As a psychotherapist and counselor, one of the main things I do is help people whose relationships are "broken" for lack of a better word. What I have found is that if both people want to improve the relationship and are willing to state clearly what they believe their part might be and what they're willing to do to improve, then the relationship has pretty good chance of getting better! If, however, only one person wants to make it better and is constantly pointing the finger at the other person as the source of the problem, the relationship doesn't have much of a chance.
The healthier a person is, the better the chance of a healthy relationship! Accepting responsibility for your actions is part of being a healthy person!
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